Emotional Intelligence is the ability to identify and manage your own emotions and the emotions of others. It is generally said to include three skills: emotional awareness; the ability to harness emotions and apply them to tasks like thinking and problem solving; and the ability to manage emotions, which includes regulating your own emotions and cheering up or calming down other people.
“Happiness is like a butterfly. The more you chase it, the more it eludes you. But if you turn your attention to other things, it comes and sits softly on your shoulder.” Henry David Thoreau
Happiness is a rich and meaningful life which isn’t the destination, but the journey! If you were to ask enough people what they want in life I’m sure ‘happiness’ would be the overwhelming response. We all want to be happy, but it’s probably what most people understand the least. Happiness is not just a matter of feeling good. Happy feelings are pleasant but if we try to strive for them all the time, we are bound to be disappointed.
What are emotions?
Emotions are like the weather. They ebb and flow. If you’re able to master your emotions, then you’re able to master your life. The emotional triad includes the following 3 areas:
(1) Physiology: Emotion is created by motion, which enables us to take action.
(2) Focus: Whatever you focus on, you feel.
(3) Language: You’re the source of all your emotions, your language creates them.
The truth is, you can feel any emotion you want by deciding to feel it. Happiness is a choice, so is anger, frustration, sadness or any other emotion. We feel ‘happy’ or ‘angry’ because of how we interpret each situation and the meaning associated with it. So act the way you want to feel by changing your physiology, focus and language.
Your perceptions are controlled by your focus and the way you interpret the meaning of things. You can easily change your perception by changing your physiology or asking a better question, to change your focus, and thus how you feel.